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Top Couple Communication
Tips To Improve Relationship Communication
COMMUNICATE YOUR WAY
TO A BETTER RELATIONSHIP INSTANTLY
- The 4 Golden
Rules Of Communication For Couples
- by Chelestiar Kong
The key to a successful relationship is undoubtedly
good communication. For a relationship to work,
couples must constantly communicate their thoughts
and feelings to each other. However, as time goes
by, couples lose interest communicating with each
other. They run out of topics to talk about and
conversations become monotonous. A slight mis-usage
of words can easily metamorphose into an argument
out of proportion. Couples start losing their loving
connection and relationships become a chore rather
than an avenue of enjoyment.
At Love Clinic, we have
4 golden communication rules which you should always
keep in mind. They can be applied to maintain your
relationship at its peak and prevent you from losing
that important person in your life. To help you
remember these rules, we have devised a mnemonic –
L.O.V.E, where L stands for Listening,
O for Open communication, V for
Verbalising and E for Empathy.
Rule #1: Listening
You must have gathered
from various websites or seminars that the key to
effective communication is listening. We couldn’t
agree more. If both parties can listen to each other
well, they are more likely to understand each
other’s ideas and avoid unnecessary
misunderstandings.
How do you train
yourself to listen effectively? In the initial
stages, communicate with your partner with the same
vigilance as if you are clinching a 100 million
dollar deal. Listen actively to what he/she has to
say, process in your brain the feelings he/she is
experiencing and react accordingly. Paraphrase what
you have gathered and ask questions to clarify when
in doubt. Apply these principles to your every day
communication. With practice, you will be able to
capture your partner’s feelings even before he or
she verbalizes it.
Rule #2: Open Communication
The second golden rule
for effective communication is to communicate openly
and sincerely. Be honest in whatever you say and try
not to lie to the other party. Share with each other
your thoughts and ideas and update the other party
on your every day life. As far as possible, do not
hide anything from each other. Share secrets so that
the other party will feel that he/she occupies an
important position in your life.
If you communicate
openly with your partner at a regular basis in an
honest manner, it will minimize the likelihood of
the other party guessing about what you are thinking
or doing and hence, reduce the chances of
misunderstandings happening.
Rule #3: Verbalising
Thirdly, do not expect
your partner to read your mind. Always verbalize
your wants and needs to the other party. For
example, if you are unhappy about what he/she has
done, tell him/her in a tactful way, or else the
other party may never know your displeasure. If you
really love him/her very much, whisper words of love
sweetly into his/her ears.
Through continued
verbalization of your thoughts and feelings, a
better mutual understanding will develop, which will
in turn bring your relationship to greater heights.
Rule #4: Empathy
It has been said that
the language of love is not words, but meanings.
Hence, it is important to try and understand the
other party’s feelings when communicating.
Appreciate the other party’s ideas, concerns and
expectations and try to see things from his/her
perspective. If there are conflicting view points,
try to put yourself in the other party’s shoes and
identify with each other. With more empathy and
concern, your partner will feel loved and this will
open up new channels for effective communication.
In conclusion, always
remember these 4 golden rules and communicate with
L.O.V.E. This not only cuts down on arguments
but also bring both parties closer physically and
emotionally.
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